EP 039 The Shadow Sabotaging Your Success Mindset (And It's Not What You Think)

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What if I told you that the biggest
reason that you are still stuck in your

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nine to five is not your lack of stills?

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It's not your connections.

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It's not even your courage
or your lack of courage.

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What if the real enemy is the part
of your unconscious mind that's

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literally been programmed to keep
you safe, keep you small, which

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means it's keeping you struggling?

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And what if everyone doing shadow
work right now is missing the

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most important shadow of all?

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The one that's actually sabotaging
your success before you're even

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able to start your success.

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DNA podcast, your success.

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Is in your DNA.

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What is up?

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What is up?

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What the hell is up?

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My fellow success seekers, welcome back
to another episode of Your success DNA.

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It's that podcast for my aspiring
entrepreneurs and nine to five escapees.

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It's actually for anyone who's into
personal development, but I do,

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as you tell by the examples we put
in here, I do tend to focus on my

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aspiring entrepreneurs because I
think entrepreneurship is the greatest

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personal development program out there.

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In the world, and that's why we're here
delivering these episodes that focus on

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mindset shifts and habit upgrades and
those little doses of rebellions that

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help you break free from convention so
that you can build a life and a business

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aligned with your version of success.

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And if you know someone who dreams
of ditching the grind, but still

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makes time for some personal
development, you might wanna go ahead

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and forward this episode to them.

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Alright, so let's first break down what
we're gonna be talking about today.

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First.

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We're gonna be diving into why traditional
shadow work is missing the mark for my

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aspiring entrepreneurs out there for you.

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Yeah, that's who I'm talking to right now.

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You see, while everyone is out there
journaling about their childhood

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trauma, they're completely blind to
the unconscious patterns that sabotage

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all of their dreams, their relationship
dreams, their business dreams, their

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financial dreams, their childhood dreams.

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Before they're even able to
start working on those dreams.

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And second, I'm gonna be reeling three
specific shadows that keep smart,

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capable people just like you trapped in
that employee mindset, even when they

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are desperately wanting to break free.

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These aren't shadows that therapists get
out there and talk about it on the norm.

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No, no, no.

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These are the business killing
relationship strangling beliefs.

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Hiding inside your unconscious mind.

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And third, you're gonna discover the
entrepreneurial's shadow work process

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that actually moves the needle for you.

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For all my aspiring entrepreneurs
out there, this isn't about healing

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your past, it's about confronting
a part of you that is terrified.

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Of your own success about
confronting a part of you that is

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addicted to the all too familiar
struggle of you playing it small.

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Alright, so once again, I'm gonna
hit you with the truth and I

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think this one's gonna sting like
a slap or a smack on the butt.

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You are not stuck because
of lack of opportunity.

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Mm-hmm.

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No.

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There's lots of opportunity out there.

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We see it every day.

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Some people market opportunity
to you on the daily.

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You are stuck because part of you is
unconsciously committed to staying exactly

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where you are, right This very minute.

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Right?

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Let that sink in for a minute.

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So here's what I want you to do.

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Picture this.

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You're sitting at your desk.

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It's Tuesday afternoon, maybe
it's like 2:47 PM and you can

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feel that post-lunch energy crash
hitting you like a brick wall.

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This is about the time that many of
you pick up a monster or something

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like that and gulp it down.

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Maybe you go for your fifth cup of coffee.

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Those fluorescent lights are humming
over your head and you hear your

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coworker maybe two cubicles over
having the same conversation about

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the weekend plans that they have.

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Every single week.

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Yeah.

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What do you do?

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Well, you minimize that spreadsheet that
you've been staring at for the last hour,

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and you open LinkedIn just for a minute.

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You tell yourself, I'm just gonna clear
my head, and then you see it another

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post from someone who left their
corporate job to start their own thing.

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Yeah, this time it's a photo of them.

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They're sitting in some
amazing outdoor diner.

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Maybe it's a coffee shop in
Portugal, and the caption reads,

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two years ago, I was trapped in a
job that was slowly killing my soul.

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Today I'm building something that matters.

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You feel that that pang in your
chest, that mix of inspiration.

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With a little bit of jealousy, make
your throat tighten just a little bit.

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You scroll through the comments of
this post and person after person

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is saying things like, so inspiring,
and I wish I had your courage.

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Well, you close LinkedIn and you stare
at your computer screen for a moment.

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Maybe your eyes just kind
of blink in disbelief.

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Then almost without thinking, you
open the folder that's buried deep

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within your document section, the
one that's labeled business ideas.

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You click on that document that
you have been working for, I don't

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know, what has it been, eight
months, nine months, 24 months.

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Go ahead.

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Be honest with yourself, and
you read through it once again.

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Page after page after page of research,
market analysis, financial projections.

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It's solid.

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Let's be honest.

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It's rock solid.

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You know this could work.

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You have the skills.

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Hell, you've been doing the exact
same damn work for someone else

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for years, some of you for decades.

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You have some connections.

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You even have a little
bit of money saved up.

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Probably more than enough
to get you started.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Some of you are nodding with me right now.

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You're like, oh my God, he's
been looking over my shoulder.

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I know.

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I know.

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But then right on cue.

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Your brain starts that familiar dance.

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Well, maybe I need to research
the market just a little bit more.

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'cause this market research
is from last year, you know?

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And what if I'm missing something obvious?

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You know, maybe I should take that
online course I saw last week first.

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You know, the one that's been sitting
on my bookmarks for three months.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Okay.

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And you know, maybe I should wait
until after the holidays or after

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this big project at work wraps up or.

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Even more so some of you're
saying I'm gonna wait till after

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I get that promotion, or after?

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After.

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After.

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Yeah.

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Now even more of, you
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I can, I can feel it.

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I can hear some of you
in my magic headphones.

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You can feel it happening.

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The familiar weight is
settling on your shoulders.

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It's that same weight that's been
there every single damn time.

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You open that very document
every time you've gotten close

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to actually pulling the trigger.

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Doing something about it.

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Now, imagine I'm sitting right there
next to you in that same office, in

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that same sterile office, and then I
lean over and I ask you one question.

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What would actually happen
if your business succeeded

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beyond your wildest dreams?

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Yeah, you feel that shift in
your stomach, that little flutter

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of panic mixed with excitement.

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Your hands.

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Maybe they're getting a little
sweaty just thinking about it.

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Maybe you're just put
your finger on your neck.

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Maybe your heart race just picked
up a couple of beats per minute.

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Yeah.

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Picture yourself trying to
answer that question 100%.

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Honestly, go ahead.

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Really picture it.

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You are making more than you ever have.

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If everything came true, if the answer
to that question is what would it be?

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You are working from wherever you want.

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You are finally building something
that's yours, but then what?

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Huh?

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You'd have to become someone you do
not recognize the person who takes

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risks instead of the person that
plays safe, the person who bets on

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themselves instead of hiding behind
someone else's company or brand name.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, you will have to leave behind
everyone who knows that you are

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the reliable one, that you are the
practical one, that you are the

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one who has their head on straight.

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You know who I'm talking about.

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You can hear that name popping up
in your subconscious right now.

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Let's be honest, what
would your parents think?

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They've been so proud of you with your
stable job and your good benefits in a

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way you've been able to take care of your
wife, your spouse, and your children.

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What about your friends who are still
grinding it away in their cubicles?

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Would they still wanna go out and grab
drinks and sit down and complain about

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their bosses if you are not there with
them to, to commiserate with them anymore?

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Uh, yeah.

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You wanna talk about
weeding out some friends?

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Yeah.

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And here's the scariest thought of all.

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You have to admit that you've been
playing small all the way up to that time.

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Perhaps your entire life.

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That all those years of being
responsible, he says, with air quotes

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and taking the safe path, were really
just fear dressed up as wisdom.

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Okay.

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One last thing I want you to
picture that moment of realization,

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just kind of washing over you.

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Your unconscious mind
isn't afraid of failure.

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It's absolutely terrified of success.

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You know why?

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Success means death.

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What?

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What the hell are you
talking about, Traci?

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It means the death of your current
identity, the death of your relationships

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with people who are making you
comfortable with being just like them.

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It means the death of that all
too familiar struggle that has

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become your strange, twisted,
but ever valued comfort zone.

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Even the stress at your job, the Sunday
morning scaries, and that the feeling

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of being trapped is all too familiar.

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It's all too twisted and
comfortable and familiar.

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Well, let's be honest, familiar
feels safe even when it's slowly

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suffocating you and your soul.

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Yeah, so this is what I call
entrepreneurial shadow work,

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and it's the missing piece that
no one wants to talk about.

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I, I have been a, a member of
some pretty high-end mindset

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shift masterminds, et cetera.

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I haven't heard him talk
about it there either.

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Okay, so here's how to do shadow work.

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That I think actually serves you
and your business giving you the

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breakthrough, and it doesn't just
serve you as a therapy session, right?

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We don't want just
another therapy session.

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We're gonna break this
down into three easy steps.

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Step number one is you wanna identify.

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Your success shadows.

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Okay, so I want you to go
ahead and get your journal.

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I've talked about this over the
course of past few episodes.

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I'm a big fan of journals and
having a place to write something

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down, even if it's a, a notes app.

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But to be honest, I, I'm a big fan
of taking the intangible thoughts out

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of your head and rolling them down
through your hand, the right hand or

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the left hand, and turning it into
something tangible on a piece of paper.

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So get that journal and start writing.

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The answer to these three
questions, and I want you to be

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brutally honest with yourself.

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What would I give up if my business
succeeded beyond my current income?

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Yeah, easy question.

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Write down everything, everything
that pops into your mind.

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Don't pause.

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Don't grade yourself.

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Don't edit yourself.

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Relationships.

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Would you change any?

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How about your identity?

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You know that's gonna change
your comfort zones, certainly.

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Even the story that you would tell
yourself about why you are stuck right

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now or why you were stuck, right?

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Because if your business
succeeds, you're no longer stuck.

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Next question.

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Who in my life would be
threatened by my success?

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Woo hoo.

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This one's gonna make you think a
little bit, and let's be honest.

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This is not about judgment here.

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It's about awareness.

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Your unconscious mind protects these
relationships by keeping them small.

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So which ones are gonna be
threatened by your success?

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And what part of you, actually, let me
rephrase the question in the correct way.

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What part of me is
addicted to the struggle?

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Ah, a lot of you don't
want to deal with this.

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I was one of those, it was a time in
my life I was addicted to the struggle.

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Most people are unconsciously loyal
to their problems because as I

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mentioned earlier, their struggles
feel familiar and familiar.

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Feels safe.

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Even when that safety, that struggling
safety is slowly choking your soul.

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Okay?

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Alright, so now once you've got those,
let's go to step number two, and

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that's the identity death process.

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This is where traditional shadow
work, I think tends to get it wrong.

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They want you to integrate your shadows.

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Okay?

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Maybe there's, you know, a part of that
that needs to work into it, but I want

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you to consciously choose which parts
of your identity need to die for your

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better self to be born, right May.

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Maybe it's your relationship self for
your better relationship self, for for

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your better entrepreneurial self to be
born, because I guarantee you, there's

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some part of you that needs to die.

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In order to birth the next level
of you, I can guarantee you.

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Here's the thing.

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My corporate self could not be born
until I killed my drug addicted self

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Seems kind of, you know, simple.

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Well, duh, Tracy.

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Well, if it seems so logical in
that sense, why is it different?

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Other less extreme versions.

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Right.

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Okay.

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Now next part of part two is I want you to
write a letter to your current identity.

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Go ahead.

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Just sit.

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This is no joke.

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Right?

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I learned this a long time
ago, uh, back in the eighties

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or nineties from Bruce Lee.

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It's one of the ways he used to manage
some of his emotions was he would

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write a letter to whomever, whatever
it was he was angry at, and then

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he would crumble it up and burn it.

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And with that went his emotions.

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But we're not gonna go that extreme.

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I want you to write a letter
to your current identity.

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Go ahead and thank it
for keeping you safe.

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Go ahead and acknowledge your current
identity for what it has given you,

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because clearly it's given you something
otherwise you wouldn't keep it around

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and then consciously choose to let it go.

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Now if you want to go to the Bruce
Lee route and go ahead and tear that

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little section out of your journal,
or if you write it on a separate piece

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of paper and crumple it up and burn it
as a ritualistic way of letting it go.

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Try it.

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I, that's okay because look, this isn't
about healing your employee mindset self.

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It's about graduating from
that employee mindset.

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Okay?

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Now step number three, this is
gonna be the success rehearsal.

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Now your unconscious mind needs to
practice being successful before your

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conscious mind can create that success.

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Right?

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Now.

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Many of you do that a bit when you,
you know, you create your dream

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boards or your vision boards, and
you have sticky notes all over your

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bathroom window with visualizations
and affirmations that you're seeing,

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that's you trying to practice here.

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We're gonna do every morning for the next
30 days, I want you to spend five minutes.

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Picturing yourself as the successful
entrepreneur that you're wanting to

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become, that you're actually becoming now.

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If you're not striving to be an
entrepreneur and you're just still

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listening here to me anyway, 'cause you
think you're going to get some good value.

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Well thank you for hanging
around this long and I hope

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I can deliver some for you.

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But maybe you're visualizing yourself
as the successful spouse, as the

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productive parent, whatever it is you
want to become, whatever it is that

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you are becoming, go ahead and spend
that five minutes for the next 30 days.

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Visualizing that every day.

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Don't stop every day, okay?

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If you really want to go balls out fast
and really get things happening faster,

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do it again before you go to bed.

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No.

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Okay, but here's the key.

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Don't just visualize the money
and, and the freedom and all.

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The hoo ha's no, no,
visualize the identity.

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How do you walk?

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Are you walking slumped over?

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I bet you're not.

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I bet you're walking tall and
proud with intentful strides.

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Yeah.

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How do you speak?

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Do you speak with fumbled up language?

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Probably not.

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You're probably speaking
with clarity and assurance.

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There's a certain level of
confidence, maybe even a little

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bit of joy in your voice.

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How do you make decisions?

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Yeah.

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Are you making decisions?

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You know you are.

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Otherwise you wouldn't be a successful
entrepreneur or successful whatever

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it is you're attempting to accomplish.

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Your unconscious mind needs to know
that this new version of you is safe.

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That it's worthy and that it's aligned
with who you really are inside.

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You may not be there yet, but
you're about to be, and you

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need to make sure it's aligned.

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We've heard about, you
need to know your why.

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You need to make sure your why is aligned
with your who and that who is who you are.

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Okay, so speaking of
identity transformation.

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This is the exactly the, uh,
kind of mindset work we dive deep

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into every week in the Unleashed
Your success, DNA newsletter.

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That newsletter is designed specifically
for my aspiring entrepreneurs and my

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nine to five escapees who are ready for
some real transformation, not just that.

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Scratch the surface levels, level stuff.

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Now you, you really want to
dive in and get, get shit done.

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Each issue delivers mindset shifts
and habit upgrades, and more doses of

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rebellion just like we deliver here.

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Again, helping you break free from
convention so you can build not

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just a business, but a life aligned
with your version of success.

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And if you're, if today's episode
resonates with you even a little bit

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and you're, you're still here, I'm
thinking it does, then you need to be,

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Head over to your success dna.com and
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Ladies and gentlemen,
here's why this matters.

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On an even deeper level, we're living
through the death of the employee mindset

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and the birth of ownership in our economy.

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I really think so.

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I think.

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The past few decades have pushed so many
people into the employee mindset that

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our economy has taken a hit, and there's
a, an awakening starting to happen of

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ownership of being an entrepreneur, even
if it's just an online only entrepreneur.

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It's still entrepreneurship
and entrepreneurs out there,

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uh, they give back to their
community through economic ways.

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Maybe hiring somebody, maybe not just
their own community, the community as a

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whole, as a nation, or even as the world,
but most people are trying to make this

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transition with, with some unconscious
programming that has kept them safe.

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As in as employees.

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Okay, so you, you, you're not
gonna make that transition without

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some deeper level understandings.

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The old paradigm rewarded, conformity,
rewarded, security, and rewarded playing

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it safe by following someone else's rules.

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This new shift I'm talking about
here, this new paradigm, I think

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is gonna reward authenticity.

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You see me here?

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Long beard, long hair.

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Just saying it like I is, right.

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It's gonna reward risk taking and
it's gonna reward creating your

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own rules and then living by them.

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That's part of being authentic.

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So that's almost redundant to
say, but I'm gonna say it anyway.

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Actually, I just did.

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But here's the thing, your unconscious
mind doesn't know all that.

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It's still trying to keep you safe
using that old, outdated programming.

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Okay, which is why you wanna go
through the steps I talked about.

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This is bigger than just
starting a business.

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It's bigger than just, I don't know,
trying to be a good parent for your kids.

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It's bigger than just
having a great relationship.

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This is about evolving as a human being.

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You evolving, getting better,
whatever it is you do with your life.

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The entrepreneurs who thrive in the next
2, 3, 5 years to a decade won't just

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be the ones with the best strategies.

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Hmm.

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I don't think so.

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They're gonna be the ones who've done
that inner work to align their unconscious

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mind with their conscious goals.

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Yeah, your biggest competitor
is not the marketplace.

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It's the part of you that's terrified
to outgrow your current identity.

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Let that sink in for a moment.

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Okay?

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So with that, here's your
whisker wisdom for this week.

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Your unconscious mind.

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Should not be and is not your
enemy, it's your employee.

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And like any employee, it's gonna
need clear direction and a little

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bit of new job training because
it's gotten all that old training

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and now you need to reeducate it.

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Your unconscious mind's
job description is.

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Keep this person safe by
maintaining the status quo.

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Yeah.

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You, some of you're nodding, you're
like, oh my God, he's so right.

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I know.

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I know I am.

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But you need to give your unconscious
mind a new job, and that new

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job description should be help
this person become the parent,

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entrepreneur, wife, husband, father.

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They are meant to be.

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You.

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Fill in the blank in there, or
maybe that's your whole list.

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Here's your specific action for this week.

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Before you go to bed tonight, I
want you to have a conversation

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with your unconscious mind.

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I get it.

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Some people who think it's
crazy to talk to yourself.

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I do it all the time.

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I think it's only crazy if you lose
the argument with yourself anyway, but

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go ahead and have that conversation
with your unconscious mind out loud.

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Yeah, go that far.

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Tell it that you are promoting it from
Safety Manager to Success Partners.

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Give it permission to help you
grow instead of just survive.

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I know it sounds weird, but your
unconscious mind is really listening

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and it has been waiting for you
to finally give it a new mission.

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Okay, look, the shadow work revolution,
I think it's happening right now

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and it is powerful, but most people
are using it to stay stuck within

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their own story instead of going
ahead and writing themself a new one.

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You're different.

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You stuck around.

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You're still listening.

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Even if you think I'm crazy, you're
still here, and you're here because

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you are ready to confront not just
your past, but your potential.

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The world does not need yet another healed
person who's still playing it small.

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It needs you.

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It needs you unedited.

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It needs you unleashed, and it needs
you unafraid of your own success.

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Your unconscious mind has been
your bodyguard, and that's good.

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You want it there, but now it's time
to make it your success partner.

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And with that, I'm gonna leave
you as I always do, think

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successfully and take action.